Monday, 16 June 2008

Happy Father’s Day, Dear Mom

Last Saturday, when kids were wishing their Dads a Happy Father’s Day, I wished the same to my Ma (Mom) and rightly so since she has been both a Mom & a Dad to me since Dad passed away when I was just 5. It must’ve been tough for her to play both parents to a son of 12+ & a daughter of 5 but she did it, all the while exhibiting tremendous strength of character, love and belief in her kids.

For me at least, Ma made up for the void that Baba (Dad) had left. Of course there were times when I missed Baba. I always felt a pang in my heart when I saw the special relationship that most of my friends shared with their Dads. I was fearful of people who asked me, “Do you remember your father?” because I never knew what the truthful answer was. “Duh, he was my Dad. Surely I remember him” or is it “I was only 5. How can I remember him?” ? The truth is I have snatches of memory from the past when I can clearly visualize Baba but I am not really sure whether those have been conjured up by my mind from hearing the countless stories about him or whether they are the real thing. Anyway, Baba has lived in my memory through the anecdotes told & re-told by Ma & Dada (elder brother) and countless others who knew, loved & respected him. Whereas, Ma has always been & still is beside me through the ups & downs of my life … sharing my joys & sorrows, bolstering my courage when I’m at a loss, correcting my mistakes when required and just being there whenever I need her.

Although Ma never had a career herself, she instilled in me the importance of being independent and did not harass me to get married till I was ready to, although at every family get-together that she went she was harassed about it … everyone asking her when her close-to-30 (read over-the-hill) daughter intended to get married !!! There was never a topic which was taboo for discussion at our home. Ma always encouraged us to speak our minds though there were plenty of times when we didn’t agree with each others’ view points. :-) Despite having had our share of misunderstandings, we have always been friends and today, I am her lifeline as she is mine.

A gutsy and very independent (edging on stubbornness, at times :-) )lady, she lives by herself in our old apartment in Calcutta where she stepped in the day she got married & enjoys life to the hilt ... socializing with friends and relatives. She is my idol ... the perfect Woman of Substance !!!

Happy Father’s Day, Dear Ma.

P.S.: Not only Ma but Dada too, took the rough-edges out of life for me after Baba passed away. I know that he knows, but I wish that there was a special day to tell him too how much I love him & how much he means to me.


Mystic Margarita said...

Such a beautiful post, PA. Brought tears to my eyes. My regards to kakima, who is indeed a remarkable woman - it's because of mothers like her and my ma who have been both parents to us that we are what we are today. Hugs.

Piscean Angel said...

MM, u r soooo right. Hugs to u too.

Mystic Margarita said...

You've been tagged :)

Sucharita Sarkar said...

What a lovely post. I do so admire your ma, who single-handedly brought you up and gave you the freedom to do your own thing. Do tell her that I feel inspired by her. LOL.

mixedblessings89 said...

That's beautiful, really.
Oh, hey! I'm a piscean too- March 7th.

Piscean Angel said...

Thanks for visiting, MB89. Mine is 28th Feb. :)

Madhurima said...

This is actually the first post of yours that I read and honestly, it brought tears to my eyes.
have heard so much about ur mom and ur escapades with her, I can almost imagine what a strong woman she is:)
wishing you super mother-daughter duo lots of love filled moments:)

Piscean Angel said...

Thanks, Madhurima. Hugs to you.